Family: Reflections

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1. your desire to get up good morning. Share
2. work and work of all.
3. Say goodbye and say hello when they enter or leave.
4. Interésate for the lives of those living with you.
5. Accounts and reports of your stuff to yours.
6. Not hide your feelings, good or bad.
7. Forgives your mistakes and those of others.
8. Facilitates the rest of your life and people. Request
9. everything you need from them, it is better to wait in silence because guess what.
10. The sum of the confidences create family atmosphere.
11. Expresses affection and tenderness. Remember that because you want to live together. Fear not demonstrated.
12. Not wait to break your family to appreciate. Fosters
13. meetings and activities.
14. Remember important dates and celebradlas. Make
15. gifts, even minimal, any day is good. Write
16. , occasionally, a note or a letter to yours. Like and can be read many times. Regal
17. your smile. You last longer that the "hills". Di
18. more positive rioja rioja negative. All true.
19. Welcomes, appreciates, enjoys. Complain little.
20. That you are not any words left to say or to express affection. Be happy family today.

Children: Reflections

We come into this world with 4 to satisfy basic psychological needs:
- Need to love and be loved. Sometimes we love them too much and not teach them to be, to love them, to surrender. Sometimes we have no time for love or shame us over to "tell the love." And love is not said is lost. The family is where you feed the affections, not stomachs.
- Need to be valid. We all need to be valued our work, our effort, our affection ... need to be needed. You have to know how to thank our children what we do, we must assess its done, your love, your trip to the kitchen or your room tidy. It is important to feel valid, not to be surrounded by people who give everything done and what makes them invalid. All grow closer to the stimulus to blame.
- Need to be autonomous. Everyone, even small ones, need their personal autonomy. Namely, leaving spaces of responsibility to go about doing things alone. It is important to know that we trust them, let them make mistakes, which is a right of every human being, without the need to remember that the greatest: "I already told you ...." Respect the privacy of your camera, your drawer, their secrets, their things.
- Need to live in membership. It gives us security family, clan, the group to which we belong, we need to feel included and we will remember with affection, with the complicity that gives the members of a family, a class, a particular group. We must assess all the groups belonging to the gang (sacred to the child, although parents do not love us). Belong to groups helps the person honored. There are families who do not care for his family, who lost family in the macro are not alone and without television ever. Be confidences, laughter, rituals, special moments. The children of today feel they belong more to the grandmother or your teacher that the parents, since they tend to work more than anyone else.

We must grow, since the son I PHYSICAL
with good food and rest. I
affective and social relations with warm, tender, open, cheerful, supportive, enhancing self-esteem. MENTAL YO
with information, knowledge, materials and new activities ...
Spiritual self and tranqulidad with moments of solitude, intimacy, reflection, deep conversations, since truly solidarity and fraternal.

According to the above, what then is educate? Educar
is to treat each child as a person, different, independent and free. We must accept that the individual is sacred and allow himself to be, to follow his path, his vocation. Educating is always acting
from maturity, from the internal consistency, from the very truth and reality of who we are without pretense, offering the best of ourselves without boasting, no matter what our flaws and weaknesses appear. Educar
is to be attentive to strengthen and encourage positive with regard to the learner, but praise should be avoided by all and each time, giving the impression that you are constantly being judged. Educar
is discarded labels, destructive phrases ( "I am ashamed of you, you're a disaster, you will not be anything in life, you're worse every day ...." These negative judgments (self-fulfilling prophecy) cause havoc in the real self the immature and self-block and increase security guilt. Educar
is to determine what effects occur in our children as our negative attitudes such as intolerance, insult and discredit the excessive permissiveness and violent forms of treatment. < BR>
educate and is not is not passed between spouses malcrianza of the faults of the children. It is assumed that each part of your error and remedied as soon as possible.
Educar is not a parent consents to all while the other is intransigent because it confuses and misleads the learner.
Educar apply different parameters is not good or bad depending on the mood of the moment.
Educar not let a lost child without a clear and precise rules those that provide guidance and security.
Educar is not that every adult in the household to exercise the authority to his whim. The father screams and punishment, tolerating and covering the mother and grandparents blackmailing or buying love. < BR> Educar not change his mind at the whim or mood, or give orders to leave the learner without reference points and not knowing what to expect.

Educar is an example of authenticity, love, simplicity and coherence among parents who are in agreement on clear rules and precise, perfectly familiar to children, to which all must adhere without compromise. It
sow hope in the minds and hearts of our children and believe: capable, noble, kind, outstanding, creative and happy to teach them to live with a fullness of this joy, happiness and peace and that it is carved their future.

So when your son ...
You look with your eyes, look at him;
you store your arms, abrázalo;
you find your mouth Kiss her;
you want to talk, listen to him;
feel helpless, ampáralo;
feel alone, acompáñalo;
prompted let it, let it;
prompted again, compréndelo;
prompted him to play with, play with him;
feel sad consuélalo ;
is hard work, animal
lost all hope, aliéntalo.

Because if a child ...
Criticized lives, learns to condemn;
lives with hostility, he learns to fight;
live ashamed, learns to feel guilty;
lives with tolerance, he learns to be patient, stimulated
lives, learns to trust herself, appreciated
lives, learns to appreciate;
lives with fairness and justice, learn to be fair, live feeling
security, he learns to have faith;
lives with approval, learns to esteem;
lives in an atmosphere of friendship, he learns that the world is a nice place to live and contribute to this ideal.

Finally, the "Letter from a son to all parents in the world":

Not me everything I ask. Sometimes I call just to see how much I can take.
Not yell at me. Less if you respect what I do and teach me and I do not want to. I always
des orders. If instead of orders sometimes ask me what I would do things faster and more comfortable. Meets
promises, good or bad. If I promise a prize, Give it to me, but if it is a punishment.
Not compare me with anyone, especially with my brother or sister. If you make me look better than the other, someone is going to suffer. And if you make me look worse than others, I will suffer.
Not change your mind so often about what I do. Decides that decision and hold. Let me
myself by myself. If you do everything for me, I will never learn.
Not tell lies ahead of me and ask me to tell you, if only to get you out of trouble. You make me feel bad and lose faith in what I say.
When I do something wrong, I do not push me why I did it. Sometimes I do not myself. When
something wrong, admit it grow and believe that you and I have taught me to admit my mistakes too.
Not tell me to do one thing and you do not. I always learn and be what you do but do not say. But I will never tell you and do not.
Teach us to love and know God. No matter if the school wants to teach me, because I see no use if you know or love or God.
If you have a problem I tell myself "I do not have time for nonsense" or "it does not matter," seeks to understand and help. And
Quiéreme and tell me. I like oírtelo, although you need not think to tell me.

: Reflections

What would be the "Dodecálogo Ideal for breaking and falling out? perhaps this:

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1. invoice each day for their failures, defects and failures. If you miss the best side in front of other people. Cultiva
2. evil nature and the harshness of treatment and usually grumpy muéstrate, possibly without reason.
3. Not you ever satisfied with what you do, or their attention and care. Do not fall into the weakness of recognizing merit. Monta
4. a tragedy by any peanuts, magnificent as inconsequential and insignificant and not yield until he feels guilty. No
5. ever expressed your pain or anger openly, or tell us what you think or feel. If you save your anger or hate and you will soon reach the conclusion that living with a despicable being, who earns a pulse to the bitter life. Do not be empathic
6. nor ever put in place, because if you do you might understand and even apologize or give in on something and this is a weakness that you can not afford. Do not ever
7. the first step in intimate relationships, it is your partner who will always take the initiative and you will see you if you feel or not feel. It
8. throughout your criteria, be dominant either in terms of children's education or any other matter. Do not ever yield. The delicacy and tact are showing signs of weakness. Ponte
9. always the worst, and shows distrust and suspicion Demand that as proof of love, will suit your tastes, desires and whims.
10. Involve your children in conflict and that from their earliest years are familiar with your rude manners, disqualifications, shouts and insults.
11. Niégate system by sharing with your partner likes, hobbies, projects ... the less you have in common, the better.
12. Flirt with cualuquiera not miss the occasions and causes his jealousy. Make him doubt your love and keep your best interest for you, and you'll be more mad with jealousy.

And the "Dodecálogo Ideal for Love and Harmony"? perhaps the following:

1. 're Not angry both at the same time, maintain calm. If one wants to win an argument, let it be your partner. It takes two to form a dispute, and that is wrong is the most spoken.
2. Not remember past mistakes and if you do a review, do it with love. Do not
3. gritéis each other (¡unless the house is on fire!) And I never go to bed with something to resolve.
4. When you're wrong, be prepared to admit it and apologize. Estate also ready to forgive.
5. Always available at each other. Id andalusia encounter one another, do not expect to always be another that comes to you.
6. Finding time to be together and share things: work, hobbies, projects, trips ...
7. Dialogue, dialogue and dialogue. True dialogue is the lifeblood of any spousal or partner because it promotes the game, teaches us to listen and make us receptive and empathic.
8. Not justify your behavior or that of your partner through certain topics, "or who loves you" ... show to get you happy and that would be stupid to do that humillándote, reminding you at every instant error or menospreciándote. Love is putting the good of the other to our own good. Rate
9. and openly express what they admire in your partner.
10. Trust your partner and be a good confidant. Do
11. front and grow together in the face of difficulties.
12. Respects the individuality of your partner, it is essential that each retains its own identity.

Following this last point, extracts adapted some of Gibran Khalil Gibran in his book "The Prophet":

When love gets you, follow. And when you talk, believe in it. Os to be tame, docile and flexible hardness of your shoot, to know the secrets of your own heart. Just as dating back to the top and caresses your delicate branches trembling in the sun, and descend to your roots and shake off from the land. Love has no
not want to be possessed. Remember also that once they get the fruits of your love, your children are not your children are the sons and daughters of Life's longing, anxious to perpetuate. Through you conceived, but not you. And even if they are at your side, you do not belong. You are the bow from which God, the Archer, launches your children as living arrows into the distance. Let mold blithely by Bowman, as well as He loves the arrow that flies, and also loves the bow that is tense.
Nacisteis together and together we will abide forever, but the white wings of death disperse your days. But let your union grow in the spaces. Love one another, but do not love a prison. Llenaos another crown, but not just a drink. Sing and dance together, but each of you to keep off the loneliness to it sometimes. Even the strings of a harp vibrate but are separated with the same music.
Love has no desire to be done, but if you love and you can not avoid having desires, your wishes are that they: wake at dawn with a winged heart and give thanks for another day of love ... and then sleep with a prayer for the beloved in your heart and a song of praise on your lips.