Frigidity can be defined as the absence of pleasure and excitement in women during intercourse or masturbation, but there are some sexologists that define it as the total absence of desire or sexual appetite (Aphrodisia) so that women cannot feel attraction or pleasure by sex and cannot enjoy a fulfilling sex life or have orgasmic experiences. Frigidity is not a disease or a problem that has health consequences, however, lack of sexual pleasure in women's lives could be cause for changes in mood and character of her, and being the cause of marital problems which can affect the lives of women both with partner and socially.
Female Sexual Pleasure
Sexual pleasure is a central nervous system response that reacts to sensory stimulation not only of the sexual organs, but a subtle and complex psychological and emotional stimulation, which most often takes the powerful influence when someone enjoy sex and have orgasms of varying intensities.
While there are both men and women who can feel pleasure and sexual sensations with only stimulate your sexual organs, the emotional impact appears to be involved in either a greater or lesser extent in sexual pleasure for both men and women.
However, it seems that this emotional factor is much more prevalent and influential in women than in men, women seem to need more encouragement of emotional and even spiritual things, to be safe and let it flow slowly the pleasurable sensations of her body. This need for women to be stimulated beyond their physical body is precisely the reason to why women have a difference with men in matters of sexual pleasures, nor because "nature" is or is predisposed to be. Actually, this thing of being stimulated emotionally to enjoy the body is mostly due to education and examples that a child has received about pleasure and sexuality, acceptance of the body as much contact with own bodily pleasures. However, mostly due to the trials and limitations that we had in the freedom to use our body to receive, experience and give pleasure.
Why does it happen?
It can have several causes but the main and most common are:
- Lack of contact and acceptance of your body and pleasurable sensations
- An education based on the belief that sex is dirty or "bad"
- Lack of a mature and pleasurable contact with their emotions
- Resistance to pleasure and fear of losing control
- Judgment to your body and your feelings
A partner and frigidity
While leaving behind the problem of frigidity is something that women have to do by resolving these conflicts with themselves and start giving the opportunity and freedom to let their body feel pleasure, sexual partners can play an important role to help a frigid woman to experience pleasure and enjoy the sensuality.
A little spontaneous and insensitive sexual partner, for example, that only addresses the physical body appearance of women (sex organs) to give pleasure, may be a factor that inhibits much more or even cancel the entire women's sexual enjoyment .
Male attitudes based on journals, magazines and maneuvers to give a woman pleasure, that are planned and / or mechanical, can be detected by woman, who can feel the obvious anxiety to experience pleasure of the man. All of these strategies in men that are intended to ensure that women enjoy, can undoubtedly cause the opposite effect, causing total insensitivity to women's pleasure because she is required or forced to feel pleasure. The forced attempt to feel joy is precisely what makes the woman lose it. And it is common that the woman then begins to pretend.
When the woman feigns pleasure
Women often pretend for several reasons: to avoid being "wrong" with her sexual partner, to avoid feeling like she is doing things inappropriately, or because she believes that pleasure is "very bad" and doesn’t share this information or "defect" with her partner for fear that he will be discouraged and walk away or leave, or stop to enjoy what she cannot enjoy.
Pretending the pleasure is the same as going to a buffet with delicious dishes, prepared with great care for us but with the detail that we haven’t hunger. Imagine having to eat all that we have but having no appetite or craving. So we start trying, we thank the detail but on the other hand, we want to run when we see everything we have (and we need) to eat. But something keeps us from running away, perhaps because the other expects us to eat, and also with pleasure. Even if we get a little hungry, we could fright the appetite only seeing what we have to eat.
Express a lack of desire
To correct this problem, it is necessary that woman says she does not feel desire or attraction, with no guilt or fear, or just being honest and not pretending, which is a way to begin to resolve this problem and that the sexual partner should also assess the attitudes. Expressing the lack of desire can bring much more to mate, and if not, then perhaps it is better not to maintain relations with someone that you cannot be sincere and honest with.
What can women do to solve this problem?
Learning to accept your body and go slowly daring to experience pleasure with him, trying sex. For this, we need to observe where are the potential lawsuits and eliminating them gradually go replacing them with more favorable beliefs, begin to feel sex as nice and see your partner’s body with pleasure and delight.