Children raised by parents who have sexual knowledge of the subject are undoubtedly in the long run, much less trouble and confusion or sexual anxieties than those who did not have a sexuality understood. The experience of sexuality begins at an early age, when the child begins to explore the physical sensations of your body and has a contact agrees with him. Start enjoying the body and pleasure through it takes place, perhaps, since the baby suckles the breast of his mother and feel his touch. This is one of the first discovery of the baby, the love of her own body because this offers him pleasure. As the baby grows is discovering new joys in her body like toe sucking, or biting the arm of his mother or eat new flavors and aromas that will stimulate smell.
The pursuit of physical pleasure is a natural and spontaneous in humans, the body is oriented to the pursuit of pleasure, or confusion problem may begin when children are growing and, in its eagerness to continue to explore new ways of feeling pleasure, the adults begin to intervene, trying to lead healthy and with the resources they know, the enthusiasm of the child or young person.
Here are some important points you may need to consider when trying to instill in your children a future healthy and responsible sexuality.
• Being frank and honest: The most important thing here is certainly to be as honest with yourself. For this, it would be helpful if the father was put in touch with their feelings about sexuality, and openly admit to knowing the self that causes conflict or do not like about this subject, including what might cause confusion or is reluctant to admit. As the father is more honest with yourself about important issues such as masturbation, the joy of the body, the expression of love and pleasure, early sexuality, homosexuality, etc., more may be sent clear messages to the child or young person when the situation so requires. If any aspect of sexuality that is not very clear to the father, or that causes feelings or even anger, it is best to read a little about the issue and delve further into what he feels about it, so that the term to win a little more understanding. This clarification to oneself helps a lot both the parent and the child or young person to feel secure.
• NUDITY: Nudity and the use of the body is small compared to other important issue to consider. Love the body and see it as something beautiful and natural is one of the most important issues that can pass the child, but which one learns to communicate in a spontaneous, frank, and never forced. Changing clothes in front of the child or the nakedness of that sometimes one is exposed by the natural course of events, is a healthy attitude and spontaneous which the father debiese book. However, if you are not sure or not comfortable showing your body because it inhibits you, then do not do them, so both the child and you will feel better.
• LANGUAGE: It is very important to try not to avoid the concepts of "bad" or "good" about sex, which are somewhat vague concepts that the child could translate or understand much in his way. To speak of sexuality, it is always best to be very objective, say what you think and feel trying to be very clear and precise, it is always better to give a point of view using phrases like "I think that ..." instead of more radical use phrases like "That's wrong." Give opinion firmly and openly, and inquisitive tone, helps children explore the issue in this regard and does not cause feelings, like feeling that you are wrong, or judged, rejected or recrimination for his feelings. It is very important to refer to the sexual parts by name and not use euphemisms, which can give the child understand that sex is something "shady and suspicious," something secret or forbidden, which may begin to cause anxiety, as on one hand has a sexual need while on the other hand does not know if this right to feel what you feel.
• Sexuality and character education: we must remember that the awakening of sexuality is a way of asserting one's personality and character of the future adult. The best way for children to experience a healthy and responsible sexuality is talking about it and how you talk about some other topic, talk early on of how are the sex organs and for that work, and if the child is asked to answer the less inhibited and free. However, if it costs you talk about sexuality, it is necessary to admit in front of the small as a limitation. On the other hand, if you have religious beliefs or personal moral about sex, it is necessary, if the occasion requires, you his opinion frankly as possible, I say I disagree or agree. Never pretend to support views that do not share just because they are "good" for their children. It is best that you send a clear message, otherwise the message will receive the child of confusion.